Goals: Understanding what went wrong.


I have known many people that had great ideas, daydreams, and want that were never accomplished; some even moved backwards. Whether they wanted to be a Firefighter, CEO, Prom Queen, etc.; many of these people tend to look back and wonder how I got here. But why?

I believe that there a 5 steps that can help you to accomplish your goals.

1. Defining goals

Self-Reflection, Understanding, and Acceptance is a key component. Self-Reflection is a tool of understanding ones strengths and weaknesses. In doing this, I believe that finding these strengths and weaknesses can open your eyes to goals, career paths, and family choices that you never thought of. Self-Reflection is not easy, but is accentual to accomplishing goals.

2. Setting unrealistic goals

I don’t believe that setting goals to high is the problem, but to low. “The greater danger for most of us is not that our aim is too high and we miss it, but that it is too low and we hit it.”, quoted by – Michelangelo Buonarroti – Renaissance artist. I think that he was onto something. If we set bars or barriers to low, they get in our way of accomplishing what our level of talent can do. When this happens goals aren’t there to help but to hinder our growth.

3. Mind Set

Positivity is a huge factor in accomplishing goals. We have all worked with, lived with, or been a culprit of negativity. Negativity is like a monster pulling us back from where we set ourselves to go. Whether negativity comes from the weather, a friend/family member, or change; resisting the urge will only help us to get where we want to go.

4. Hard work

Goals are not easy. If they were, everyone would accomplish a college degree, a promotion, or a marathon. I believe that goals need to be set and followed through with daily, weekly, monthly, yearly, and until you reach your big goal; then you set a new goal all over again. By setting small goals, it is a reminder of your big goal on a daily basis.

5. Don’t give up

Some people let their insecurities, fears, and uncertainties win. I know this may seem silly, but I have witnessed people that only stand in their own way. Don’t miss your goals because you weren’t willing to fight for them.

Goals are a huge part in being successful in the recruiting industry, and I hope that this blog is inspirational.


Mind-Set Matters

Mind Success

Step into any leadership seminar, speak to any career coach, or lay on the couch of any psychologist, and you will be told that mind-set matters.  Maybe it won’t be said in that exact way, but the general premise behind the phrase is one of the keys to great leadership and overall life success.   A good friend recently gifted me a book called “Taking People with You” by YUM! Brands Chairman and CEO, David Novak.  David shares wisdom from the author John O’Keefe in BusinessBeyondtheBox.com.  O’Keefe’s defines mind-set as a “prejudice, a bias, a fixed way of looking at things.  We all have them, some good and powerful and some bad and limiting.”  We hear prejudice and bias, and negative connotations typically come to mind as they have been ingrained in us. We are told that we should swiftly run in the opposite direction from being labeled biased or prejudiced. However, in terms of business and making your way up your career ladder, mind-set prejudices and biases are items you should strive to understand and stay in constant awareness.

Throughout my career, my mind-set has changed and matured to be framed by the good and powerful thoughts and not by the bad and limiting thoughts.  I have been fortunate to work with many great minds who are willing to mentor and develop up and coming industry talent.  O’Keefe says “The key, when applying this tool to your own way of thinking as a leader, is to remember that a mind-set is something you choose, not something that you leave up to chance.”

Below are a few points on how to use the tool:

  • Start by silently recognizing the limiting mind-sets you see in others (colleagues, family, friends). Notice how often people have mind-sets that weaken their results (e.g., I can’t do that, I always mess this up, you cannot do x in a recession, etc.). These mind-sets are beliefs that people hold to be true. However, you know they cannot be universally true, because you don’t hold them, or not all the time.
  • Next, realize you are no different.  You also have a set of limiting mind-sets that you hardly realize are there, though others are likely to see them in you.
  • Admit that your mind-set is a choice because if what you believe were really true, there would be no need to believe it.
  • Now, make an effort to choose mind-sets that will help you, not limit you.

How you view the world around you and the tasks immediately at hand will have an impact on the reactions you have and actions you take in life and on your career path.  Think positively and while every day will not be a guaranteed success; you will be on the right path to overall career success. The positive mind-set is a terrible thing to waste!

It’s not just about what you know

One of my college professors once stood in front of our class and said, “Your whole life, you have probably been told that when it comes to finding a job, it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.” We nodded as a collective, as we had all heard that phrase a million times. He continued, though, to tell us that is not actually the case. He told us, “It’s what you know, it’s who you know, AND it’s who likes you.”

Finding the right position for your career isn’t always about what is on your resume or how many people you know working in your field. Finding the right position is a combination of your experiences, having a foot in the door, and making a good impression when you meet with the company. It doesn’t matter how many people you know if you have zero qualifications for the job, and it doesn’t matter how many people you know if they wouldn’t vouch for you as a potential employee. What does matter is making connections with people in your field and gaining their respect.networking

When it comes to meeting new people, you can never have a network too large. Building and maintaining relationships is key not only for immediate gratification; it also will pay off in the long run. Whatever you’re looking for, whether it is a new job, a promotion, or any opportunity to further your career, every set of eyes and ears helps. The more people who know your goals, the better.

The reason I’m sitting in this chair, typing this post is because I made a connection with the president of Theoris IT, Brian Koch. We connected through LinkedIn, and I decided to take him up on his offer to get together for coffee and networking. As it turned out, networking led to a job offer. I’m a firm believer in taking chances and seeing where they lead you. You could end up with a whole new adventure!

Kari Souers